Reclaiming Your Confidence: You’ve Got This!

If you sometimes struggle with self-confidence, you are not alone. Every single one of us, no matter how successful, polished, or “together” we look on the outside, has struggled with confidence. I know women who are CEOs, women running households, and women leading movements and doing big, badass things. Even they have had moments of questioning themselves, doubting their worth, or second-guessing every decision they make. If this sounds familiar, please know you are not broken. You are human.

Now, here is the good news. Confidence is not something you either have or do not have. It is something you build. It is like a muscle. Just like your body gets stronger when you lift weights consistently, your confidence grows when you put it to use and practice daily. So if you have been feeling a little shaky in your self-belief, let’s talk about how to shift that energy and start showing up as the strong, capable, brilliant woman you already are.

Stop Believing the Lies Your Mind Tells You

Your brain is sneaky. It is wired to keep you safe, which often means it feeds you stories like “Don’t speak up in that meeting, you’ll sound dumb.” Or “Don’t go after that promotion, you’re not qualified enough.” Or “Don’t put yourself out there on dating apps, nobody is going to be interested.” Sound familiar?

Here is the truth. Your brain is not always right. Just because you think it does not make it true. One of the most powerful shifts you can make is learning to question those thoughts. When you catch yourself in a spiral of self-doubt, pause and ask, “Is this fact or just fear?” More often than not, it is fear talking. And fear does not get to drive your life unless you let it.

Confidence Comes From Action, Not Perfection

I cannot tell you how many women I have coached who wait until they “feel ready” before they take a step forward. Spoiler alert: if you are waiting for confidence to magically appear, you will be waiting a long time. Confidence comes after you act, not before.

Think about it. When was the last time you felt proud of yourself? It was not from thinking about doing something. It was from actually doing it. Even if it was messy. Even if it was not perfect. You built trust with yourself because you followed through.

So instead of aiming for perfection, aim for progress. Take one small action today that your future self will thank you for. Apply for the job. Sign up for the class. Speak up in the meeting. Start the side hustle. Let people know you are going to start dating again. You do not need to feel one hundred percent confident to take the step. You only need to be brave enough to try.

Surround Yourself with People Who Lift You Higher

Confidence does not grow in a vacuum. It grows in environments where you are supported, encouraged, and reminded of your strengths. Take a look at the people you are spending the most time with. Do they fuel your fire or do they dim your light?

One of the fastest ways to boost your confidence is to surround yourself with people who believe in you, even on the days when you are struggling to believe in yourself. This could be a mentor, a coach, a supportive friend, or a community of women who are also striving for more. Energy is contagious. Make sure you are catching the good kind.

Remember Who the Heck You Are

Sometimes we need a little reminder. When self-doubt creeps in, I encourage my clients to make a “confidence file.” This could be a journal, a folder on your phone, or even a sticky note on your mirror. Fill it with reminders of your wins, compliments you have received, challenges you have overcome, and reasons you are proud of yourself.

When your brain starts telling you that you are not good enough, flip through that file and remind yourself, “I have done hard things before, and I can do them again.” Remind yourself of all the things you have done, instead of focusing only on the things you haven’t.

The Bottom Line

Confidence is not about never feeling afraid, insecure, or unsure. It is about moving forward anyway. It is about reminding yourself that you are capable, resourceful, and deserving of the life you want.

So the next time you feel that wobble of self-doubt, take a breath and remember. You do not have to be perfect to be powerful. You do not have to have it all figured out to take the next step. And you do not need permission to show up as the best version of yourself.

You already have what it takes. Now it is time to own it.